Respect. Tantrums. Appreciation

Uncategorized

It’s been a while since I was here. Life seems to be happening and there doesn’t seem to be time to do anything other than work, sleep, eat and spend time with my lovelies. Here’s a bit of a catch-up. It will probably be all jumbled and all over the place, so please bear with me.

Thinking about

There has been some crazy stories about how bad the world is lately. Too many issues to write about (and I think this may be why I was so quiet this last month) and nothing that hasn’t been covered by others. The thing that has been on my mind the most though, is how do I raise my children to be good people. To grow up to respect other people’s religion, race, culture, sexuality, opinions. There are so many factors out there that can influence my children regardless of my teachings; television, social media, easy access to the world via the internet, how do I ensure that they become people who look out for others and do good.

Reading

I’ve recently joined a book club with 10 other ladies, where we each choose a book and then pass our book on to one person. We each have a month to read our book we received before sending that book on to ‘our’ person. Last month, I received a book titled The Last Juror by John Grisham. The book is about a man from a well-known family that rapes and kills a woman in the small town. He is convicted and sentenced to prison but there’s a slight twist later in the book. I love books that grip me from the first page and sadly, this book didn’t do that for me. I had a hard time getting through the first few chapters but once through all the detail given, the story line and end was enjoyable. This month’s book is entitled, A Thousand Splendid Suns by Khaled Hosseini. I heard it’s an amazing novel, so I can’t wait to get started.

Experiencing

Recently, my sister and I decided to try doing or experiencing something new at least once a month. I think this has something to do with my mom passing but I haven’t thought it out too much yet. It started with the Muddy Princess race we did on 1 May 2016. Since then, we’ve been for a wine tasting and breakfast at JC le Roux which was an amazing experience. Obviously not something that can be done with the children but a good outing regardless. We had the most scrumptious burgers at Jerry’s Burger Bar in Kloof Street. We discovered Stellenbrau craft beer in Stellenbosch. Took the children to experience a little bit of the V&A Waterfront with a milkshake at the Clock Tower, a trip on the Wheel of Excellence, and then more burgers at Frankie’s in Sea Point. Of course, an outing to V&A isn’t complete unless you’ve made a trip to the new Hamley’s. The children were beyond themselves. Obviously we have loads still to encounter but considering what homebodies we are, the fact that we did this much in such a few weeks is something to write about.

Children

Besides the fact that they are growing like the weeds that take over my front and back garden, the boys are amazing. Ethan is starting to say more and more actual words. He is throwing tantrums like nothing I’ve ever experienced with Matthew (any tips on how to deal with it will be so greatly appreciated). He looks up to his brother and tries to do everything he does. Matthew is a wonderful conversationalist, loves to sing and dance and has an opinion about everything. We are STILL waiting to hear from the schools we applied at for Grade R for next year. I am so anxious about this and can’t wait to have this finalised. Planning for Ethan’s birthday is under way. This is the first year of all birthday parties we’ve done, that we’re not having it at home. Still need to do so much with the décor details and food planning but whatevs, I’ll pull it off in time.

Marriage

I’m currently participating in this ‘Appreciate Your Partner” challenge started by Date Nights. You write down at least one thing you appreciate about your partner every day for 30 in July. The aim is to make you not only appreciate your partner more but perhaps remind you of why you are with them. Life is hectic and sometimes we all need a reminder of this. Also who doesn’t want to hear all the things your partner appreciates about you. You can find the details to the challenge here. There is still some time to catch up. Go on, do it. You can follow me on Instagram to see my updates about my appreciation for Mark.

APY
Photo credit – www.datenights.co.za

Work

I’ve been very unhappy at work for the last few months at least. I’ve tried to make it work, tried to make changes and get management involved. Things just never got any better. I was taken advantage of and not appreciated. Just last week, I went for an interview at a great place for an amazing position and I got the job! I resigned the next day and I’ve had a heavy heart since. I love my company, I love my work and I love my colleagues. It’s the management of the staff and how unappreciated we all were that was getting to me. I keep asking myself if I’m making the right decision to leave. Shouldn’t I have given it some more time to get better. I have been praying daily for guidance and to make my heart lighter about this decision that I made.

new job

Wow, this is one massive catch-up post. If you got this far, I hope the cup of coffee was enough and that the biscuits held till the end.

If you have any advice for this mommy regarding toddler tantrums, how to deal with teaching my children to uphold their values, my work worries, or even if you have any reviews about the books I mentioned above, please leave a comment. I love hearing from you and I promise, I’ll reply.

Family

Follow us on social media to see more

14 thoughts on “Respect. Tantrums. Appreciation”

  1. Lovely catch up post Kim. How I miss these catch up we had at SW. You seem to be doing awesome hey, on all fronts. Well done. I have no advice on tantrums, I have been lucky in that my kids don’t throw many tantrums, but not sure if the tween moods can also be classified as tantrums. About work, maybe it was time to move on. At times we tend to hold on for far too long and by that time there is more damage done by the terrible situation. I left my job Jan 2015, I was unhappy for the previous 2.5 years, plunged into depression, and I each day was a struggle as my self-confidence was rattled so much by my former boss, I was always second guessing everything I did. It was just not healthy anymore, so I joined hubby in the business. It is tough, but I am not depressed anymore. That is more than I could have hope for. As for marriage, that is a great challenge you are busy with. I am not overly religious, but I have found a blog of a wife who speaks a lot of sense and addressed many issues wives face. Even though she is Christian, I like that she is not so heavy handed on it, and therefor even I can still feel comfortable in her space. If you want to take a squeeze at the website, love, honor and vacuum, I think that is what the blog is called.

    1. Thanks Jess. At the moment I am focusing on leaving and not why I’m leaving. I appreciate the reminder. Also feeling stifled and struggling to gain back my self confidence that was stripped away from me. I have a lot of work to do with getting myself back but this is the start. Will have a squizz at that website you mentioned. Sounds like something I would enjoy.

  2. Great post Kim. Raising our kids to become good people is a very hard but necessary job while being surrounded by all this evil. Its also great that you and your sis has started this new journey, enjoy it & good luck on your new job!!

    1. Thank you for the good wishes. It really is a necessity and so important that they can then teach their peers as well. Thank you for the comment 🙂

  3. Thanks for the mention Kim and for participating so amazingly in this challenge! I was just looking at ‘A Thousand Splendid Sons’ at my mom’s house today as I think it was my book and I’m pretty sure I read AND enjoyed it but truth is, I really can’t remember! Gosh, porridge brain never goes away 😉 with regards to bringing up your children to be good and tolerant people, I hear you. I think the best way to teach them is by us modeling the way we want them to be as this is how they learn. How do we treat people? How do we talk about other people? How do we talk to each other as a family? Tolerate our differences? Also, education. So learning about other religions, races, cultures. And hoping for the best 🙂

    1. Lol I understand that porridge brain. Happens to me often, especially when we’re watching a movie 😀 You’re right about us modelling the way for them. They do say children are the ultimate copy cats. I hope for the best all the time hahaha! Thanks for the comment 🙂

  4. Well done on the new Job! About the tantrums- ignore it and walk away. They eventually realise that you not taking notice of it and it will then just pass. I did that many times, n shopping malls and supermarkets.

    1. Thank you. Still super scared but it’s a good move. I’ve tried the walking away, he doesn’t stop. It’s like he takes it as a challenge and sees how long he can go for. Sheesh, we’ll eventually figure it out, I”m sure :).

  5. Wow – a huge catchup post! One of the great things about bookclubs is that you get books to read that you may not have even looked at – so some will be a hit and some a miss. A thousand splendid suns is a great great but sad read. Enjoy it – I did . Did you read his first book – The Kite Runner?

    As to tantrums – with our A the “throw yourself down next to them thing seemed to work very well” – not sure if that will help. As to the work thing the simple point that you got a great new job without too much effort should tell you that the new job is meant to be. Move on positively I would say

    1. Ha yes, that’s what happens when you don’t blog for a while. I finished A Thousand Splendid Suns and I loved it. Through the sad parts, through it all, I enjoyed it immensely. I haven’t read his first book but I am definitely going to catch up on it after this book.

      I need to try the throwing down with him tantrum thing. Nothing else seems to be working. Walking away and ignoring him makes him cry louder and longer. Eish!

      Thank you for the comment on the job front. You’re right about thinking how effortlessly I got the job and that it was meant to be. Will do so 🙂

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *