Doubt is such a thief of joy. It takes away a part of who you are and makes you believe that you are less than. Less than perfect. Less than enough. Less than you deserve.
Doubt makes us question whether we’re doing the right, made the right decision, are good enough parents, wives, husbands, children. Doubt is a liar.
We need to strive to let go of doubt. Trust in ourselves enough to know that we’re making the right decision, that we look absolutely amazing in the red dress, that we’re doing the best we can as a parent and our kids really do love us.
Don’t doubt that you can climb the mountain. Just take one step at a time and BELIEVE that you can do it. Before you know it, you’ve reached the top and let me tell you, the view up there is amazing!
I’ve succumbed to self-doubt more than once in the past few months.
• I’ve doubted my ability as a mother. Questioning what I’m doing wrong to make my kid act out the way he is. Questioning what I’m doing wrong that my breast milk is drying up so soon.
• I’ve doubted my self-worth. Always comparing myself to others, not learning from my mistakes, taking criticism to heart.
• I’ve doubted my family’s love for me. The real me. The me I don’t often recognise yet they do. I’ve questioned why they even love me.
This is such a dangerous and slippery road to be on and I’m so glad I managed to navigate this road and make it to the end. I’ve realised that I need to stop being so negative and just let go. Because when I let go, I let God. There are so many things out of my control and stressing and worrying about it will change nothing. Except fuel my self-doubt and make my life miserable.
Things I’ve done to deal with the doubt
- I’ve started researching ways to get through to my child.
- I’ve decided to let go of the idea of breastfeeding for a certain time period.
- I still compare myself, but instead of asking myself why can’t you be more like…. I ask myself what can you do to be the person you want to be.
- I booked a night away to reconnect with Mark so that I can remember that we were friends before we had children and that we enjoyed each other’s company. Maybe this will make me realise that he really does love me.
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